Divorce is the most painful and stressful experience because it's the breakdown of love, a family relationship that you might think will last forever. However, after the divorce, you still have to be ready to welcome new happiness.

Not to mention the divorce is a process of constant stress, the cost and time to travel to the court, and the construction of a new life, new accommodation. At this point, you still have to practice living alone, forgetting the old pain. So, when is the best time to welcome new happiness?

How long should I wait?

Six months, a year, or a few years after the divorce, depending on your mental stability.

Once the paperwork is complete, depending on the stress and fatigue, emotional and physical, the length of the divorce process ... a woman takes more time to heal the deep wound caused by divorce before welcoming a new person into her life.

Sex and relationship therapist Courtney Geter says: "Those who haven't been dating for 20 years should change their mindset, you should understand that life has changed, you have to change, too. When it comes to dating again, you should understand that the new relationship is completely different from the old one, don't feel like birds are afraid of curved branches.

Dating is not only about finding a mate or a spouse, but also a way for women to connect, create social groups ... Experts encourage communication between men and women in normal dating to help them forget their pain. 

No one wants to date someone who kept crying at their first meeting, drinks too much alcohol, or talks endlessly about their ex. This is the type of woman that men hate the most on the first date. And that not a good time to move forward.

Get over your fear

If you were forced to divorce because of cheating by your partner, you will be the one with extreme sadness. You think that out there, anyone can betray or hurt you. Step back and give yourself more time.

Avoid negative thoughts like: "All men are bad"; "The good things have been taken away"; “Dating again is not a good idea”… These thoughts will make you feel inferior and not attract positive energy. If you don't forget those bad thoughts on your own, it will become a habit in your mind that isolating you in pain.

One fine day, you want to fall in love again, the world will light up and you feel like it is in spring. At this point, share with a close friend that you want to meet new people, accept to go to parties.

“The sign that someone is ready for serious dating after divorce is showing interest in the opposite sex. This is a great opportunity to move from casual meetings to serious dating, ”says James Bauer.

When you're having fun is a good time to go on a date
When you're having fun is a good time to go on a date

After a divorce, most often blame themselves for the breakdown, while the end of a marriage is often bilateral. Please accept it even if it's hard medicine to swallow, love yourself, and stop judging the past. Whatever is gone, let it go, try to digest what happened, and be responsible for it. If you can't, go to a healthy place like a meditation center or a professional to help you navigate your emotions, overcome anger, and let go of resentment and pain.

Relationship expert Dr. James Bauer says, look in the mirror and observe your image. If you are cranky and annoyed, wait for a date, if you appear mild and curious, start off on a great day.

Where to find that person?

Join active groups, outdoor entertainment sessions such as swimming pools, sports clubs ... maybe you will find people with similar interests to jog when your ex-husband did not like or find out people together add new stamps to the passport when the old is not passionate about travel.

Step out of the four walls and you'll find someone who shares your interests


Don't expect that all of the datings will be successful, only 30% of the people are seriously right for you, the rest is just for comfort, so be patient, don't burn the stage.

If right now you might want to date multiple partners at the same time to compare and avoid repeating old mistakes, be skillful and explain like this: “I appreciate meeting you but at this time  I'm looking at other subjects before deciding, ”says Dawn.

Above all, be honest with yourself and be honest with new people, if you're not happy, stop.

Don't let your children stop you

There are many people who keep dating on the excuse of children. Don't bring your baby to the appointment if it is not someone you feel you can trust. Don't feel guilty when you think you are splitting feelings with your children. Understand that all children want their parents to be happy.

Don't forget to get help from your friends, they can connect you with meetings.